Sometimes friendships end just like everything in life has an end. Life is seasonal — things, people, all come and go. Nothing stays the same. Life is transient, and we’re always in motion, moving and shifting and pivoting. The relationships we have with one another are no different. We can grow together just like we… Continue reading Friendships end. It happens.
(Okay so I’m not talking about myself directly because I am not even sure I ever want to be in a relationship again but that’s a blog for another day.) I spent the past few days watching clips of the OWN show and documentary called “Black Love” and I………..the experience was truly heart breaking. Most… Continue reading What I want in a man is not a big ask.
Beyoncé put out another visual album which means she was catching heat once again. We saw this happen with “Lemonade” when she was called out for using West African imagery and referring a lot of Yoruba spiritual practices and culture. The overall complaint with “Lemonade” seemed to be that she didn’t really include “all of… Continue reading Africa is not a country
Because the reality is that the events that took places many years ago still have an impact today. I was thinking about housing and land ownership (which is a big thing in South African) and realized that slavery and apartheid really set black back in this regard which then had a ripple effect into other… Continue reading Quick thoughts: Why must I be punished for things done years ago?!
Trauma. I have been having conversations with my cousin about the constant fear and anxiety women have in this country. Our thoughts are constantly plagued by the threat of physical violence and rape and how to avoid it. Looking at the rape statistics in this country, it makes sense that women are always thinking of… Continue reading Quick thoughts: Living in South Africa as a woman is dangerous.
I have just come to the conclusion that people care more for the person who is delivering the message more than the principle which is garbage. People must just tell us that they hate Monique and spare us the garbage hot takes. Let me give you the back story, in case you don’t know it.… Continue reading So it’s not about the principle but likeability ?
Let me get it out. I need to address the children at the back of the class. The people who are still wet behind the ears when it comes to this music and hip hop ish. Let me talk to you real quick. Missy Elliott is one of the greatest. I could literally stop right… Continue reading Not on my watch.
Something has been weighing heavy on my heart for the past couple of months. I am someone who likes to read on all sorts of things and the happenings of the word, and I have been noticing something come up more often. Every other article I read on peacekeeping missions across the African continent it… Continue reading Who watches the peace keepers?
Yes, you read that correctly. I want to talk about poverty porn. Poverty porn, also known as development porn or famine porn, has been defined as “any type of media, be it written, photographed or filmed, which exploits the poor’s condition in order to generate the necessary sympathy from selling newspaper or increasing charitable donations… Continue reading Poverty porn
Whoa! I’m not talking about in the literal sense. The people I love the most are those who have dared to be vulnerable, and I say “dared” because I think to show yourself honestly is an act of tremendous courage and strength. We don’t all want or need infallible superheroes. I just want to see… Continue reading Quick thoughts: Get naked with me
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