Yes, yes. I know! Not ALL men. But when an issue becomes systematic and has a high likelihood of occurring we speak in broad terms. It’s also condescending for you to believe that women lack the intelligence to know that not every man on the planet is violent and dangerous. We know this. We’re just not interested in spending time on semantics in order to protect fragile egos of men.
Those you know me know that I have never been interested in people wanting to derail conversation because their feelings are hurt. Women and children are dying, that’s what matters to me most.
Let me give you an everyday example. When we talk of race, and the effects of white supremacy on our lives, it is understood that we are referring to systems of oppression, rather than specific individuals. The same why black men get irritated when white people say “I’m not racist, I have black friends” when discussing racism is exactly what they do when they “not all men” us.
There is an inherent privilege in being able to assert, that a whole world of women should be sure to remember that YOU are a decent human being. We are talking about the experiences of millions of women. Instead of opening your eyes and seeing how dangerous the world is for us, your concern was that YOU aren’t a rapist or murderer and you need everyone to know that.
I do not understand what the expectation is here is the face of overwhelming evidence. A woman is murdered every four hours in South Africa, half of whom die at the hands of their intimate partners. Moreover, a health survey carried out by Stats SA reveals that 21% of women over 18 in South Africa – or one in five women – have experienced violence by their partner. For 17% of young women, between 18 and 24 years old, partner violence is something they’ve experienced in the previous 12 months. Women between the ages of 14 and 29 accounted for about 39% of femicides, and African women accounted for about 78% of these. Almost 61% of femicides took place at the women’s homes.https://africacheck.org/reports/femicide-sa-3-numbers-murdering-women-investigated/
Women are afraid of men. Men are afraid of men as well. Its why when you listen to men talk, they always make mention of how they would rather have boy children then girl children because of how scary the world is. It means they also understand how this world treats women. How men treat women. Ask yourself why you would never take your young daughter into the men’s bathroom, but have full confidence that your young son is safe in a public toilet full of women.
So I was having a conversation with a group of friends and we were talking about #MenAreTrash from a Christian point of view and what is to be done about this (I’ve mentioned that I am a born again Christian and that frames my reference to all things). There is no room to be caught up in the semantics and to “not all” in the face of everything we see. When we think of men and the position they hold in how God designed and intended family to be, we see that this is a problem. The state of men is a problem and there are bigger spiritual consequences.
When women are being attacked, it alters their view of who men are, which isn’t wrong because in the face of all of this, it’s easy to see why women want nothing to do with men. On men it’s in the sense that they abuse their position of being leaders, protectors, providers and therefore the whole design is under attack. God’s plan and idea of marriage and family is under attack.
God never intended it to be this way.
I am not going to talking about the criminal element here (which is very important), but the sin element.
Gods design is men seeing women as Christ’s fellow image-bearers, worthy of respect and not about dominating or abusing women, but also men finding their worth and dignity as men. Anything that does not mirror this is wrong. We are seeing it happen, men sinning against God by how they treat women.
Let me tell what I mean by saying the whole design is under attack and why there ae bigger spiritual consequences.
The male was firstborn. You might think that this fact is trivial but I know that nothing in scripture is insignificant. The firstborn son held a unique role and position in the Hebrew family. He ranked highest after his father and carried the weight of the father’s authority.
So when we apply this we know that God made Adam first. He was the firstborn—the head of the human race. He carried the weight of responsibility for the oversight and well-being of the human family. So when the human race fell, God held Adam responsible. The New Testament bluntly states, “In Adam all die” (1 Corinthians 15:22). The Lord held Eve personally responsible for her sin. But He held Adam responsible for smearing the entire human race with his. We can already begin to see the importance of Adam. The Old Testament sketches the outline, but the New Testament colours it in.
A man’s authority is unique to what it means to be a man. A woman’s authority is unique to what it means to be a woman. The man was firstborn, but had no kin. If a man obeys God’s Word in terms of how he lives and treats others, he has shown himself to be a man indeed. This is because they stand for righteousness, they act in strength, and they obey God’s Word. This is manhood to the max. They treat women with honour.
Masculinity is given by God to men, and men must live it out biblically rather than perverting it and redefining it in worldly, carnal, and selfish terms. Any other definition is why we constantly talk about how fragile masculinity is because it’s based on random things.
Biblical manhood is a matter of the heart, and it is manifested and matured by a commitment and obedience to the Word of God. Real men are men of integrity, internal strength in Christ, and courage, willing to do what is right and to stand for truth at all times and in all circumstances.
God created woman from the side of man, so she’s made of the same stuff—equal to man. But He didn’t create her at the same time, place, or from dust, so she’s also different. Male and female are equal and different.
God made them to complement each other.
For most of us, the idea of women being created “for” men sounds somewhat negative, since it appears to imply that he has license to use and abuse her at will. But the Hebrew preposition carries no such overtones. It simply denotes direction. She was created for—that is, toward or with reference to him. And because of all that God had put and taught him, he needed you to exist in order for him to do as God instructed.
Now like I said, men and women are different but equal. We complement each other. If you think about the union of man and woman and how God intended it to be, instruction was given to both, “be fruitful and multiply”. This, at its most basic level shows how much we need each other, with no one being better than the other.
The problem here is the current state of the nation. We see that men, stepping away from God, have led us to the point of saying #MenAreTrash. The actions of men is what is causing women to say #MenAreTrash. From a Christian and spiritual point of view, there a bigger consequences here to the actions of men against women and children.
So what happens now? What do we do? Whose responsibility is it to fix things? It would seem that it lies squarely on the shoulders of men. Because what else can women do besides pray? You all need to do better, seriously, not like how it’s become a South African male proverb. This means that men need to seek God, get help and make sure they are in line with Gods design. Till then, the number one song will be #MenAreTrash